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Power in Peace: Part 2 — Power Without Control
Christalyn Deloach
February 01, 2026
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Dear Family,
Last week, we talked about peace not the kind that waits for life to behave,
but the kind that settles the heart even when it doesn’t.
Peace taught us how to slow down.
But slowing down always leads to a deeper question:
What do we do with our strength once we’re calm?
Because peace without wisdom can become passivity.
And strength without restraint can become harm.
That’s where today’s conversation begins.
Power Isn’t What We Were Shown Growing Up
Most of us were taught that power looks like control.
The loudest voice in the room.
The one who decides everything.
The one who doesn’t bend, pause, or soften.
But Scripture quietly says something very different:
“He that ruleth his spirit is better than he that taketh a city.” — Proverbs 16:32
According to Heaven, the greatest strength isn’t conquest
it’s self-governance.
Authority flows from inner alignment.
Control flows from fear of losing safety.
Authority invites trust.
Control demands compliance.
Control manages outcomes.
Authority governs presence.
One is steady.
The other is anxious.
And many of us learned control not because we were cruel
but because safety once felt unpredictable.
Why Control Often Disguises Itself as Strength
Control often forms when:
your voice wasn’t heard
your environment felt unstable
love felt conditional
peace didn’t last long
So you learned to manage people, moments, or emotions just to feel safe.
That doesn’t make you weak.
It makes you human.
But control can never give what it promises.
It exhausts relationships.
It fractures trust.
It keeps the nervous system on high alert.
Control isn’t about power
it’s about fear of losing it.
A Pause for Clarity — Words Matter
(Webster’s 1828 Dictionary)
Before we go further, let’s slow down and define what we’re actually talking about.
Power
“Ability to act; strength; energy; faculty of doing.”
Power is capacity — not dominance.
Authority
“Legal power; a right to command or act.”
Authority is recognized, not forced.
Control
“To check, restrain, or govern.”
Control restrains others when the self feels ungoverned.
Meekness
“Gentleness of spirit; mildness; strength under restraint.”
Meekness is disciplined strength — not weakness.
So when we talk about power without control,
we’re talking about strength that governs the self-first.
Meekness: Strength That Knows When Not to Act
Meekness is one of the most misunderstood qualities in Scripture.
It doesn’t mean quiet.
It doesn’t mean passive.
It doesn’t mean powerless.
Meekness is strength that doesn’t need to prove itself.
Like a bridled horse not broken but guided.
Meekness is power that listens.
Authority that pauses.
Strength that chooses restraint.
Where Control Shows Up in Everyday Life
Control isn’t always obvious.
Sometimes it sounds like:
Needing the last word
Over-explaining to avoid being misunderstood
Micromanaging people you love
Feeling anxious when others decide differently
Withdrawing when you don’t feel heard
Control doesn’t always shout.
Sometimes it tightens.
What Power Without Control Looks Like in Real Life
In leadership
Setting direction without hovering
Allowing others to grow, not perform perfectly
In relationships
Letting disagreement exist without withdrawal
Choosing connection over correction
In yourself
Releasing urgency
Allowing rest without guilt
Trusting that not everything needs a response
Control drains energy.
Authority preserves peace.
A Simple Practice for This Week
Before correcting, convincing, or controlling… pause.
Ask yourself:
Am I responding from fear or steadiness?
Am I trying to manage the outcome, or govern my spirit?
Then choose the response that preserves peace
even if it means saying less.
You don’t lose power by releasing control.
You reveal it.
Where We’re Going Next
Peace steadied the heart.
Power without control clears the mind.
Next, we’ll talk about how this inner authority shapes decisions, boundaries, and leadership without strain or burnout.
For now, rest here:
The strongest person in the room is the one who doesn’t need to prove it.
I’m grateful you’re walking this with me.
With love,
Christalyn 🤍
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